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Bennett Jacobs's avatar

Super interesting read and very relatable, thanks for sharing Chris! I also totally agree with your main takeaway "The solution to the dating problem is keep going. Try a bunch of stuff. Show up detached from the outcome." That's how I've been approaching it lately as well.

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Jeremy's avatar

Love that takeaway, Bennett. Agreed, knowing it's not a linear path and treating it like an experiment seems to work best for me too

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Mira's avatar

I like your approach to dating. It can be fun to have low expectations and just enjoy meeting new people. I read your piece tonight right before meeting a man for a first date from tinder. The date went very well and wasn’t a hookup like most people think tinder is exclusively for. My sister met her husband on tinder and now they have 4 kids. Meeting people can be tough! I just turned 30 last week and feel my biological clock ticking ticking ticking.

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Jen Vermet's avatar

Life totally is just a bunch of experiments. Loved your field research Chris! This is inspiring me to go on a first date in the near future. It’s been maybe 5 months since my last 🫣

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seren riggs-davis's avatar

rooting for you brother stay strong out there 💪🏻

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Kelly Davis's avatar

A fun story to read, thanks for sharing this journey with us. And yay for finding someone receptive to what you need. 😍

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Mr Black Fox's avatar

“I don't know about this church though and who attends it.”

Quite the endorsement!

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April Smith's avatar

Fair point. I also believe he is smart enough to tell in 5 minutes if it's a reasonable church or a crazy one, and he could walk across the street to the other one I mentioned. Literally walk. In 2 minutes.

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Chris James's avatar

I’m curious what the comment was

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